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Offline fudgietheoriginal

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What do you say to someone when......
« on: 12 August 2017, 08:58:28 »
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What do you say to someone when they tell you they have just been diagnosed with Pancreatic cancer?
I don't like posting stuff like this.
My first thoughts were, when my Granfather was diagnosed with it, he died within weeks.
He wasn't my biological grandfather but still my granfather none the less.
Then I thought, say good bye while you can.
I checked on them today by text, the last time I rang they were taking morphine and I imagine the dose would be higher by now. It's been nearly two months since they found out......




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Re: What do you say to someone when......
« Reply #1 on: 12 August 2017, 16:52:43 »
all you can do is say your sorry to hear about it and if theres anything you can do please dont hesitate to ask...

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« Reply #2 on: 12 August 2017, 21:36:51 »
Fudgie , (I don't like posting stuff like this )
a meaningful post , indeed something not to be brushed under the carpet at any age ,
what to say depends on your friendship , religion .race etc , sadly  there are no "right words " ,just remain a friend to the end,  later don't beat yourself up over I wish I could have done more ,
Being a red cross trained 1st responder , I had  2 folk die in my arms , and I developed PTS ,
needed and  got counselling there was nothing more I could have done , now 35 years on on a bad night  that time in my life still comes back to haunt me, life is what it is, do your best, nothing more can you do,
none of us are immortal , 

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« Reply #3 on: 15 August 2017, 00:41:45 »
To put the big “C”into prospective isn’t a new end of life illness,
 diagnosed in 18th  as “the lump”when average life span was 45y,  for rich folk  it was demise around 67y ,now it’s  82 y and fell this year for the first time in 20 years by 0.1% , Why ?  ,my view having lack of income is very true, I now follow the old saying ,  http://www.macmillandictionary.com/dictionary/british/cut-your-coat-according-to-your-cloth   ,   indeed us working class  will  screwed forever by by the rich ,  a game I never subscribed to ,

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Re: What do you say to someone when......
« Reply #4 on: 16 August 2017, 20:17:21 »
@ the 1st post Cheers Roco for sharing your experince it helped.
@ the 2nd post cheers for sharing your pespective it always helps and made me :))

@ 1bit.
I'm guessing you miss your Grandmother, I really missed mine when she first passed away and I still do.
But I keep her alive in my memories by talking about her from time to time.

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« Reply #5 on: 18 August 2017, 22:15:01 »
@ the 1st post Cheers Roco for sharing your experince it helped.
@ the 2nd post cheers for sharing your pespective it always helps and made me :))

@ 1bit.
I'm guessing you miss your Grandmother, I really missed mine when she first passed away and I still do.
But I keep her alive in my memories by talking about her from time to time.
@ The original Fudgie ,  thanks , any advice I give is strictly my own experience of life and not medically approved , if any one has medical/mental problems go visit your Doc , ask my advise you could end up  sectioned , just been reading G.P's average £80k p.a. but  LTR tube drivers get around £70k p.a. , I should have studied harder at school  and stopped  dreaming and looking out of the window ,  ::) and could have been  saying" mind the doors " or nurse after this Op what you doing later ,  ;)
 

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« Reply #6 on: 19 August 2017, 20:05:50 »
@ The original Fudgie ,  thanks , any advice I give is strictly my own experience of life and not medically approved , if any one has medical/mental problems go visit your Doc , ask my advise you could end up  sectioned , just been reading G.P's average £80k p.a. but  LTR tube drivers get around £70k p.a. , I should have studied harder at school  and stopped  dreaming and looking out of the window ,  ::) and could have been  saying" mind the doors " or nurse after this Op what you doing later ,  ;)

I used to think I should have studied harder and stopped dreaming at school. (don't think so, my spelling is carp)
Maybe I could have been a doctor but it's hard enough without the PC birgade and the civil laws these days.
Once upon a time being a Doctor acually stood for something and the community trusted them, not anymore. Everything they do is second guessed by patients now because they have an internet connection. lol:1





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« Reply #7 on: 19 August 2017, 22:27:35 »
@ The original Fudgie ,  thanks , any advice I give is strictly my own experience of life and not medically approved , if any one has medical/mental problems go visit your Doc , ask my advise you could end up  sectioned , just been reading G.P's average £80k p.a. but  LTR tube drivers get around £70k p.a. , I should have studied harder at school  and stopped  dreaming and looking out of the window ,  ::) and could have been  saying" mind the doors " or nurse after this Op what you doing later ,  ;)

I used to think I should have studied harder and stopped dreaming at school. (don't think so, my spelling is carp)
Maybe I could have been a doctor but it's hard enough without the PC birgade and the civil laws these days.
Once upon a time being a Doctor acually stood for something and the community trusted them, not anymore. Everything they do is second guessed by patients now because they have an internet connection. lol:1
Lol without spell check , my posts could read as Chinese mandarin ,
computer stuff , for me spell check even beats  Google Earth 
in my original heard but not fluent example =
the approaching  Red bus , I still after all  my years would say the Bus of Red  , it makes friends smile ,  for me the bus is important , as we have 2 options Red or Silver
both use different routes to the same destination , but the bus of silver costs  28% more , indeed you can educate the peasant, but never  fully remove his history IMHO thankfully ,  having visited my nearest Gregs for my free Latte  (got my  loyalty card stamped for the 10th time ), spent ½ hour sitting outside with free coffee  & sausage £1 roll
chatting to our new town centre  builders mate  , he said guess my nationality, I  figured Polish with a suntan , wrong  he was Albanian ,to get my revenge I said guess mine ,
  ;) a draw with much laughter and handshaking, 


 

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